Different Worlds

  • Scott realizes that his experience with psychotherapy isn’t anything like those of his colleagues
    • Scott’s patients give calm and considered analyses of their problems
    • His colleague’s patients all have emotional breakdowns
    • Scott’s supervisor notes that he seems to be “uncomfortable with dramatic expressions of emotion”, even when he’s trying to hide that fact about himself
    • This means that Scott’s lack of success with psychodynamic therapies may be due more to his own personality than the limitations of psychodynamic therapies themselves
  • Paranoia and Williams Syndrome
    • Paranoia is a common symptom of many psychiatric disorders, most notably schizophrenia
      • The troubling thing about paranoia is how gradual it is
      • Instead of thinking the CIA is after you with mind-control rays, you’ll just interpret ambiguous social signals in a slightly more negative fashion
      • This can lead to a self-reinforcing feedback loop, as you become more and more standoffish in response to perceived slights from others
    • Williams Syndrome is the opposit of paranoia
      • People with Williams Syndrome are “pathologically trusting”
      • Completely incapable of believing that another person might lie to them or cause them harm
      • While it is usually coupled with mental retardation, IQ doesn’t appear to have much of an impact on the severity of Williams Syndrome
      • It seems like threat detection is decoupled from conscious analysis
    • Psychiatric disorders are often the extremes of normal human variation
    • For every person who is diagnosed with Williams Syndrome there are probably a dozen who are just more “trusting” than normal
    • Our sense data is underdetermined
      • Each data point perceived by our senses can often be interpreted in multiple ways
      • This is true both of “low-level” sensory data, like vision and sound, and “high-level” data, like social cues
      • Most people are able to navigate this ambiguity by using “context”, i.e. priors
      • However, these priors can and do vary from person to person, leading to differences in how two people will interpret exactly the same data
      • Just as there’s a spectrum from introverted to extraverted, there may be a spectrum from paranoid to Williams Syndrome
  • Bubbles
    • 46% of Americans are young-earth creationists
    • However, even though Scott isn’t excluding people on the basis of politics, religion or class, he has approximately zero friends who are young-earth creationists
    • Some other bubbles that Scott lives in:
      • Transgender - people in Scott’s bubble are 20x as likely to be trans as the general population
      • 2x as many Asians as the general population
      • Half as many African Americans as the general population
      • Depression, OCD and autism are overrepresented
      • Drug addiction and alcoholism are underrepresented
      • Programmers are overrepresented at 10x the Bay Area average
    • None of these bubbles were intentionally created
    • Some of these bubbles have persisted in the face of conscious efforts to break them
    • This phenomenon of bubbles is something that Scott thinks of when he meets serial abuse victims
      • Serial abuse victims are people who have been abused by multiple people, often over the course of their entire lives
      • Often abused by the person they turn to seek relief from their original abuser
      • Offensive explanation: serial abuse victims seek out abusers because they’ve internalized a model that defines an abusive relationship as “correct”
      • While this may be true of some victims, it doesn’t seem to be true of many
      • Many go to great lengths to avoid abusers, but it doesn’t seem to matter
      • Maybe they’re stuck in a bubble of abusers, in the same way that Scott is stuck in a bubble of transgender computer programmers
  • Discrimination
    • Some women in the tech. industry face a constant litany of harassment and discrimination, whereas other women go their entire careers without experiencing a single harassment event
    • Doesn’t appear to be any correlation between industries, companies or physical attractiveness
    • Given the baseline rates of discrimination as reported, it’s extremely statistically unlikely that someone would be able to go decades without being harrassed even once
  • The two forces of self-selected bubbles and the ambiguity of social cues can combine to create different worlds for different people
    • People unconsciously self-select into bubbles
    • People vary in how they perceive social interactions
      • Discrimination is rarely as blatant (these days) as people being called out for their race or gender directly
      • There is usually some room for interpretation (“Was I being harrassed or discriminated against there?”) which means that different people will perceive discriminatory experiences differently
    • Are people basically good or basically evil?
      • Some say the world is full of hypocritical backstabbers
      • Others say the world is full of basically decent people who are hampered by communications difficulties and differences of values
      • It’s possible that both sides are correct because they see different slices of the world
      • This applies on many axes, not just good/evil
        • Are people basically rational or basically emotional?
        • Are people welcoming or shunning of outsiders
    • The concept of “privilege” gets part of the way there, but privilege has the limitation of insisting that these differences in experience have to line up along pre-determined categories like race, gender, or class
  • Knowing that someone lives in a different world from you can go a long way towards making their behavior more comprehensible

The Narrative Fallacy and What You Can Do About It

  • The narrative fallacy
    • Typical biographies start out by describing people’s younger lives and try to show how their early lives would inevitably lead to their later success
    • Example: pretty much every sports biography has the same form:
      • Natural gift for the sport
      • Parent or coaches that pushed them to strive for excellence
      • Hard work ethic
      • Some kind of adversity or life-impacting event
      • We don’t stop to ask ourselves why this person achieved this level of success when thousands of other people who have the same background were not able to
    • Narratives cause us to miss the influences of luck and timing
    • Narratives cause us to ignore the mathematical rules of probability - “Linda problem”
    • Narratives cause us to ignore regression to the mean
      • All success stories have a fair amount of luck in them
      • Eventually luck runs out and performance drops back towards the average
      • This doesn’t mean that the person or organization is any worse than they used to be, only that they’re not as lucky as they used to be
    • The problem with narratives is that we make them predictive, and by doing so, we make them seem more real than they actually are
  • The reason-respecting tendency
    • People are willing to comply with those who give reasons, even when those reasons are absurd or meaningless
    • This is because reasons allow us to build narratives
    • This is why teaching that gives reasons for facts is so much more effective than rote memorization of the facts themselves
    • This means that our best teaching, learning and storytelling methods (those involving reasons and narrative) can also cause us to make our worst mistakes
  • How do we help ourselves out of this quagmire?
    • Become aware of the problem
      • The key question to ask is, “Out of the population of X subject to the same initial conditions, how many turned out similarly to Y?”
      • “What other hard-to-measure causes may have played a role?”
    • Modern scientific thought is built on top of efforts to solve this problem
      • The notion of a hypothesis comes from the fact that people recognized that simple narrative explanations were not sufficient
      • Narratives have to be experimentally tested before they can be accepted as “true” cause-and-effect relationships
    • Another question we can ask ourselves is, “Of the population not subject to initial conditions X, how many ended up with the results of Y?”
      • Which athletes had intact families and easy childhoods, but ended up in professional sports anyway?
      • Which corporations didn’t follow the recommendations laid out in business books, but ended up successful anyway?
    • We can reduce our vulnerability to the narrative fallacy simply by consuming less narrative
      • Stop watching TV news
      • Be skeptical of biographies, memoirs and personal histories
      • Be careful of writers who claim to be writing facts, but are talented at painting a narrative
    • When making an important decision, write down why you made it ahead of time, and then go back to see whether your reasoning was correct
    • Favor experimentation over storytelling

What Universal Human Experiences Are You Missing Without Realizing It?

  • Some people just don’t have visual imaginations
    • Assumed that when other people where talking about visualizing objects, they were speaking metaphorically
    • Got so good at talking about these experiences in metaphorical terms that people with visual imaginations thought that people without visual imaginations were having visual experiences
    • Only when Galton conducted detailed surveys did he find out that there is in fact a broad variation in people’s ability to form mental images
  • Some people don’t have the ability to smell (anosmia)
    • Can go for years without realizing that they don’t have this ability
    • Often realize that they lack this sense when they’re asked detailed questions about smells themselvesz
  • So what other “fundamental” experiences are people missing out on
    • Asexuality - for most people, sex isn’t gross or weird
    • Emotional blunting - while on SSRIs, Scott suspects that he might have no emotions or very little emotion
      • Just thought that everyone else was being dramatic and overexuberant
      • Even when he noticed himself not having emotions, he dismissed it as unlikely
      • Only learned later that emotional blunting is a common side-effect of SSRIs
    • Passion for music
      • Scott doesn’t really enjoy jazz - at most gets a half-hearted tendency to want to snap his fingers to the beat
      • Meanwhile, his brother fell in love with jazz and is a professional jazz musician

Why You’re Stuck In A Narrative

  • The narrative fallacy is our tendency to turn everything into a story
  • The real world has very few examples of linear chains of cause and effect
  • Most outcomes are probabilistic, direct causation is rare, and events are complex and interrelated
  • Our brains are engins designed to analyze the environment, pick out important parts and extrapolate from there
  • In the ancestral environment, simple linear extrapolation was good enough
  • Unfortunately, the world is much more complex today
  • The ability to cluster, simply and chain ideas is what allows us to get away with a relatively small working memory and relatively slow neurons
  • The narrative fallacy shows up as a number of “lower level” biases
    • Availability heuristic - we make predictions based upon what we find easiest to remember, and what’s easiest to remember is what has a compelling narrative around it
    • Hindsight bias - past events “obviously” and “inevitably” cause future ones
    • Consistency bias - we reinterpret past data to fit a narrative created by future data
    • Confirmation bias - we only look for information to confirm our pre-created narrative, not refute it
  • However, we need a narrative in order to have a single coherent self
    • Patients with damage to their frontal lobe lose the ability to construct narratives
    • Lose the ability to organize their lives and actions
    • In the extreme case, they do not speak unless spoken to and do not move unless very hungry
    • While people with other forms of neurological injury lose specific abilities, people who lose the ability to construct narratives lose their selves
  • So how do we use narratives without falling into the narrative fallacy?
    • Make conjectures and run experiments
    • Force beliefs to be falsifiable
    • Make beliefs pay rent in anticipated experiences